Dear (Insert Name Here),
This is the hardest letter I’ve ever had to write in my life. You’re such a good person – maybe the nicest person I’ve ever dated. You’re considerate and thoughtful and you really show that you respect me in everything that you do. You treat other people the same way, which is one of the things that attracted me to you.
I don’t know how to say this without hurting your feelings, so I guess I’d better just come out and say it. I don’t have the feelings for you that I need to have for the (man/woman) I want to spend the rest of my life with. I love you, but not the way that you love me. You’re fun to be with and I hope you’ll always be my friend, but the spark just isn’t there for more than friendship.
I can imagine how you’re feeling as you read this, (Insert Name Here) and I know I’m a coward for not telling you in person. I just couldn’t face you, knowing that what I have to tell you will destroy your world. But, (Insert Name Here) I know you’ll find someone much better for you than I am. With your looks and personality, you’ll have no trouble finding someone who wants to share (his/her) life with the wonderful person that you are.
And, (insert name here), when you do find that person, I know that you’ll thank me for letting you go. When you get over me and find someone who feels that spark, that excitement, when you kiss them, you’ll know that ending our relationship was for the best. I know it hurts you now, and it hurts me too, believe me. I hate doing this. But it has to be. Better now than after we get more involved.
I wish nothing but the best for you, (Insert Name Here). You deserve to be happy and I know you will be in time. I’m sorry that I wasn’t the one for you and I hope you can forgive me some day.
(Insert Your Name)